Death Wish List

Having recently had to organise a funeral, I have come to the decision that it should be compulsory for everyone to prepare a Wish List for their funeral, whilst they are still alive.

Losing someone close is distressing enough, but to have to sit in front of the funeral director to chose a coffin, for example, makes it so much harder.   They have a brochure from which you can choose anything from an eco friendly coffin to the more traditional coffin and anything in between and beyond (see www.crazycoffins.co.uk).

Having recently had to organise a funeral, I have come to the decision that it should be compulsory for everyone to prepare a Wish List for their funeral, whilst they are still alive.

Losing someone close is distressing enough, but to have to sit in front of the funeral director to chose a coffin, for example, makes it so much harder.   They have a brochure from which you can choose anything from an eco friendly coffin to the more traditional coffin and anything in between and beyond (see www.crazycoffins.co.uk).

I can remember, my Sister and I having to second guess what the deceased would have wanted. Some things we knew, but if the deceased has not made it clear, you have to decide if it is going to be a burial or cremation, flowers or donations, religious or humanist service. In the case of a religious service there are more decisions, which hymns and which readings, organist or no organist, order of entry into the room, i.e. everyone seated first or some/everyone to follow the coffin in, should the curtain be closed or remain open and on and on.....

It would be so much easier if a Death Wish List had been left and, more importantly, you will know that you are fulfilling your loved ones wishes.

Obviously, if they don’t care what happens once they are gone, then the family can save themselves all the worry and just organise a service (or not) which allows them to remember the deceased as they would like, without forever looking up at the sky as if the deceased was looking down on them and frowning!

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